Sep 22

AMPR Knows…How To Make Friends In A New City

By Annalyse Woodgate 


I’m from Tasmania, The Apple Isle. It was a great place to grow up. Beautiful people, diverse landscapes, arguably the most incredible beaches in the world, beaches you can only swim at seven days of the year without getting hypothermia but, serene and mostly untouched.  

 

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I was comfortable, I had a routine, a good job, friends. I could have stayed, bought a house and settled down like so many others. I think it was the day that thought crossed my mind that I realised I wasn’t ready for that. I didn’t want to do the same thing every day, I didn’t want to be comfortable.  

I’ve been in Sydney for about a year now, give or take. It wasn’t an easy transition. Leaving my friends and family, my support system – it was tough. I’m a very social person and making new friends as an adult is hard and awkward…is it normal to ask for this girl’s number? Or will she think I’m weird? Suddenly I wasn’t the confident person I thought I was, and, in some situations, I became quite anxious, which isn’t a feeling I’m used to.  

So, how do you make friends as an adult?   

These things take time 

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Use this time to explore your new city, enjoy your own company… find small things that bring you comfort… like a coffee shop close to home. Become a regular, you never know, the barista might just be your new best friend! If you’re a Sydney sider like myself… check out 


Choose your housemates wisely 

Finding the right people to live with will make the transition into your new life a lot more enjoyable. Ask a lot of questions before committing to your lease/roommates. Ask them questions about their hobbies, their job, their work hours, if they like to party or if they prefer staying in. These questions will help you figure out whether you have similar interests and if you’re likely to have a good household dynamic. My first housemates absolutely drilled me with questions, it was like a job interview, but it really helped me get to know them and formed a mutual respect between us all. We just laid it all out at the beginning and now we are all great friends. I found them on Flatmate finders, if you’re thinking about moving to a new city this is a great place to find your future roommates/friends. 

 

 

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Take up a social hobby 

Sign up for a social team sport, you know, one of those teams that lose every week but there’s always a burger and beer after the game – a perfect opportunity to make easy conversation about how that blonde girl didn’t even touch you on the score line. If you’re not the sporty type, I also tried Be One Yoga, such a beautiful space and a great way to calm your nerves before asking the extremely co-ordinated girl next to you out for a coffee. 

 

 

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Say yes 

You have to put yourself out there, it’s daunting – I know. But become a yes person.  

Say yes to the arranged friend date that your best friend organised with her cousin’s brothers’ girlfriend – she might be cool?? Say yes to the pottery class your colleague invited you to, say yes to them all (unless you’re getting creepy vibes, still say no to those people). You might not hit it off with the first few people you meet and that can be disappointing but, you’re in a new City, there’s a lot of people out there and you’ll find yours.

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